Adversity Answers Ep. 9


Q: My best friend died two weeks into the pandemic in Apiril and I just can’t seem to move past it. He was my only real friend and apart from work and girls or family we spent most days of the last decade hanging out. I now find myself stuck in my filthy room isolated and suicidal. It is ideation so no concerns there. Is there any suggestion you may have for me. I barely get up.

A: So obviously I’m sorry for your loss, death and the subsequent grieving process can be hard on many people. However, and sadly I guess, but death is part of the human experience. Loss does occur and a void is left behind, yet to look at this a bit glass half full, a space is created for new beginnings. And personally I think this is what you should try and hang on to.

Now also, by no means does this mean that you shouldn’t miss your friend or go through a grieving process, but the reality is that your life is still progressing and moving forward. You can still love, feel and experience. Read, cook gourmet, exercise – educate yourself – just don’t give up. Take small steps which lead to bigger ones. You’ll eventually find your place and your bliss, even though it may take a hot sec.

And honestly I reckon this is what your friend would want, I mean one tragic loss is enough, he wouldn’t want two (ie your soul being crushed).

Anyways, get up, clean your room, reach out and talk to people (via phone or online), but most importantly make the effort. Humans are amazingly resilient and hardy creatures – and that definitely includes you. You are both amazing and resourceful (and much more) and maybe it’s time to own that.

Take the first step.

Much love 🙂

About Mark

For all things a day-dreamer, a larrikin and an undeniable fighter. Mark advocates for both Adversity and Lyme Disease; and boasts a real passion for green living, nutrition and organic foods. Oh and he's a quadriplegic too. This spirited life coach, with prior background in marketing & advertising, now has more recent aspirations that include becoming a published author, and a business owner too. And when well enough, Mark’s also ticking off his bucket list, and he also volunteers with the Starlight Children’s Foundation. Mark is an ACIM student, an adventurer, and a sneaker collector. His dream is to one day get better and ride a bicycle around Australia.

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