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I’m American and live in New Hampshire, my boyfriend is Australian and lives in Queensland; he’s very domineering, sometimes abrasive, and not the most affectionate person. My question to you is: as an Australian male, do you find this typical of Aussie men? When I think of Australian culture, I see it as being a place where males are dominant and have the last say in things. Knowing more about the typical Aussie bloke would be helpful, as we aren’t getting along, and his last visit to the states was pretty much a disaster, as we fought a lot (I don’t put up with his bs).
Gees I should probably start this by asking why on earth are you with this guy?? This sounds like a bit of a disaster all round (especially considering the investment that a long distance relationship takes – man this must be hard on you), but this isn’t the question you asked.
So instead… as far as the typical aussie bloke goes, well honestly I reckon it’s pretty unfair to stereotype 50% of a nation’s population. I mean there are so many variables, like education is probs the biggest soon followed by socio-economic status. Or from a pessimistic standpoint, assholes can show up anywhere too. So really, rather than stereotyping half a population, I believe if a fair assessment was to be made you’d have to rate specific geographic pockets blah blah.
Nevertheless, look I’ll still have a shot at answering your question, I do get what you’re saying. It’s kinda like in the late 80’s how every aussie bloke was perceived (internationally) as being a Crocodile Dundee aka Paul Hogan.
Anyways, I don’t think aussie blokes are dominant, rather, how’d I’d put it is that they’ll speak their mind until they get their point across. So, it’s more so about being heard than forcing a point – or this is in my experience. Then, as far as having the last say, well yeah I’d say this is true for the young alpha males, only what I’ve noticed is that the older blokes get they just can’t be fucked with it anymore. All they want is some peace, security and a few quiet beers. Actually as a massive generalisation, apart from focusing on their careers and family, aussie blokes become quite lazy as they age. They like the simple and no-fuss.
Shit I hope this is helping, I feel like a bit of an ass stereotyping like this, I mean undeniably there are many, many exceptions to these rules too.
Plus, the internet and online education has made the world as a whole way more beige.
Still, one point I haven’t mentioned as yet, and this is likely to be the most solid and constant thread running through the aussie male psyche, undoubtedly it’s the importance of mateship. Like you always have your mates back, always. No matter what the circumstance, you catch them. You just do. I think it’s an unwritten rule that comes from war times. And to give you a real life example here with no bullshit whatsoever, I know I would literally take a bullet for most of my mates. And I know most feel the same.
So to me, I think this sums up aussie bloke culture more than what you’ve mentioned above (at least from my experiences). And sorry to be so blunt here but I think you just found a dud.
But hey take this or leave this, who knows I may be totally wrong!?